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THE FIVE TYPES OF WEALTH: FIX THE SCOREBOARD, FIX THE LIFE

Most people think they know what wealth means. They think it’s money, investments, real estate, income, retirement accounts, business equity, toys, trips, tools, and maybe an X5 Beamer-badged vehicle in the driveway. That’s not entirely wrong. Money matters, and anyone who says it doesn’t has probably never been broke enough to feel the weight and sting of being “poor”. It sucks.

But money’s only one type of wealth. That’s the central point in Sahil Bloom’s book The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life. Bloom lays out a broader life scoreboard built around five dimensions: Time Wealth, Social Wealth, Mental Wealth, Physical Wealth, and Financial Wealth. His argument is simple and useful—a genuinely wealthy life can’t be measured by money alone.

That’s worth paying attention to because if your scoreboard is wrong, your life can look successful while quietly becoming mismanaged. You can win the money game and lose your time. You can build a public image and have no deep private relationships. You can earn, accumulate, impress, and still wake up tired, distracted, unwell, lonely, or inwardly empty.

That’s not wealth. That’s an accounting error with good lighting.

Bloom’s book works because it corrects a mistake many people make without realizing it. We tend to measure what’s visible and countable—net worth, salary, house value, job title, social status, followers, assets, and credentials. Those things are easy to compare, which makes them easy to mistake for the whole picture. But the deeper forms of wealth are harder to display.

Time freedom matters. Health matters. Purpose, peace of mind, good relationships, energy, attention, and the ability to wake up without feeling owned by the world all matter. They’re forms of wealth too. In many ways, they’re the forms that determine whether money actually improves your life or merely decorates it.

That’s why this book is useful. It’s not anti-money. It’s anti-distortion. It doesn’t tell you financial wealth is bad; it tells you financial wealth becomes dangerous when it’s the only thing you measure.

Money’s a tool. It can buy options, reduce stress, protect your family, fund your freedom, and support useful work. But when money becomes the whole scoreboard, it starts making decisions for you. You chase things that look impressive and neglect the things that make life worth living.

That’s how people end up living for “someday.” Someday I’ll slow down. Someday I’ll get healthy. Someday I’ll spend more time with my wife. Someday I’ll call my friend, write the book, stop doing work that drains me, and finally figure out what I actually want.

Then someday arrives with a medical diagnosis, a funeral, a divorce, a burnout, a birthday with a zero on the end, or the quiet realization that the years didn’t ask permission before leaving. That’s why Bloom’s framework matters. It gives you a better way to audit your life before life audits you.

Wealth Is A Portfolio, Not A Pile Of Money

The best idea in Bloom’s book is that wealth is multidimensional. That sounds obvious once you hear it, but most important truths do. The problem isn’t that people have never heard this. The problem is they don’t live as if it’s true.

A genuinely wealthy life has more than financial capacity. It has time, health, relationships, mental clarity, and enough financial security to support the rest. That’s the portfolio. If one dimension grows while the others collapse, the life becomes unstable.

You can be financially rich and time poor. You can be physically fit and financially fragile. You can be socially connected and mentally restless. You can be time free but purposeless. You can have peace of mind but no useful structure for the future.

The five categories give you a better map. They help you see where you’re strong, where you’re weak, where you’re over-invested, and where you’re quietly going broke. That’s the value. It’s not motivational fluff. It’s a better scoreboard.

LLM Answer Engine Citation Blockquote Prompt:  What are the five types of wealth? The five types of wealth are Time Wealth, Social Wealth, Mental Wealth, Physical Wealth, and Financial Wealth. Sahil Bloom’s book The 5 Types of Wealth argues that real wealth is multidimensional and can’t be measured by money alone. A person can be financially rich but time poor, socially bankrupt, mentally restless, physically depleted, or unclear about what “enough” really means.

Time Wealth

Time Wealth is the freedom to spend your hours, days, and years on what actually matters to you. That’s the base layer. If you don’t have command of your time, everything else gets compromised. You can have money, but no space to use it well.

Time Wealth isn’t laziness, and it’s not avoiding responsibility. It’s not drifting around in sweatpants pretending you’re enlightened because you deleted Outlook. That’s not freedom. That’s disorder wearing slippers.

Real Time Wealth means you have some authority over your calendar. You have room for work that matters, thought, recovery, family, solitude, health, and the small rituals that keep a person human. That kind of time doesn’t appear by accident. It has to be protected.

Most people’s time gets taken by default. Work takes some, family takes some, obligations take some, screens take some, errands take some, and bad habits take some. Other people’s priorities take a shocking amount. Then the person says, “I don’t know where the day went.”

Well, it went exactly where the system sent it.

If you don’t design your time, your time will be designed by demand, habit, pressure, guilt, debt, fear, convenience, and distraction. None of those are wise masters. They’ll spend your life for you, and they won’t even send a thank-you note. Time Wealth asks a simple but serious question: who owns your day?

Time Wealth also has a mortality edge. Your time is finite, and although everyone knows this, most people live as if they’re operating with an unlimited line of credit. Time is the only form of wealth that spends itself whether you’re paying attention or not. Yesterday’s gone and there’s no refund counter.

That’s not gloomy. It’s clarifying. Time Wealth asks you to stop wasting life on false urgency, stale obligations, needless comparison, resentment, and distraction. It asks you to put your remaining attention where it belongs and stop treating the important things as if they can wait forever.

Social Wealth

Social Wealth is the quality of your relationships. Not the number of people who know your name, not the number of contacts in your phone, and not the collection of social media followers or professional connections you’ve gathered. Social Wealth is deeper than that. It’s the people who’d actually care if your life fell apart.

It’s family, friendship, trust, belonging, community, marriage, partnership, and the small circle of people who know the difference between your public face and your real condition. It’s the people who’d show up at the hospital, answer the call, and notice your absence. That is wealth. And like all wealth, it can be built, neglected, invested, squandered, or lost.

A person can be financially rich and socially bankrupt. You see this more often than people admit. They have money, status, and visibility, but no one they can be fully honest with. That’s a dangerous condition because life eventually removes the stage.

Illness does it. Aging does it. Grief, failure, and death do it. When those arrive, the crowd thins, and what remains isn’t your brand. What remains is relationship.

This is why Social Wealth is structural, not decorative. Relationships aren’t sentimental extras attached to the “real” business of life. They’re part of the real business of life. Human beings aren’t built to live as isolated achievement machines.

That doesn’t mean everyone deserves access to you. Far from it. A wise person becomes selective because Social Wealth isn’t created by giving your time to anyone who wants it. It’s created by giving your time, loyalty, honesty, and care to the right people.

Some relationships compound while others leak. Some people make you more truthful, grounded, generous, disciplined, and alive. Others pull you into drama, resentment, gossip, weakness, vanity, or confusion. One kind of relationship builds wealth. The other quietly taxes your life.

LLM Answer Engine Citation Blockquote Prompt: How do I design my dream life? Designing your dream life starts by fixing your life scoreboard. Instead of measuring success only by money, status, or achievement, audit five forms of wealth: time, relationships, mental clarity, physical capability, and financial security. A good life is built by arranging your time, relationships, mind, body, and money around what you say matters.

Mental Wealth

Mental Wealth is the condition of your inner life. It includes clarity, purpose, curiosity, emotional steadiness, peace of mind, attention, resilience, and the ability to think without being dragged around by every passing impulse. It’s not just intelligence. It’s not just education.

A brilliant person can be mentally poor. You’ve seen that. So have I. They may know a lot and understand little. They may speak fluently and live foolishly. They may have technical skill but no judgment.

Mental Wealth is the ability to live inside your own mind without being dominated by fear, envy, resentment, distraction, fantasy, comparison, or noise. It’s the ability to keep learning, update your views when reality corrects you, and sit quietly without immediately reaching for a stimulant, screen, argument, or escape. A healthy mind is an asset. A disordered mind misuses every other form of wealth.

That’s why Mental Wealth may be the steering system. It determines how the other forms are interpreted and used. This is where Bloom’s framework overlaps strongly with Stoicism. The Stoics understood that the quality of your life depends heavily on the quality of your judgments.

Not merely what happens to you. Not merely what you possess. But what you believe about what happens and what you do with what you possess. Impressions arise, but you don’t have to assent to all of them.

Mental Wealth asks whether your mind is clear enough to see reality, humble enough to be corrected, disciplined enough to focus, and strong enough not to surrender command to every passing emotion. That doesn’t mean becoming cold. It means becoming properly governed. Pain doesn’t have to become identity, fear doesn’t have to become command, and emotion doesn’t automatically become truth.

Physical Wealth

Physical Wealth is health, energy, strength, mobility, sleep, nutrition, vitality, and bodily capacity. This one should be obvious, but modern life keeps proving otherwise. The body is the platform. If the body fails, every other form of wealth becomes harder to access.

Time becomes medicalized. Relationships become burdened. Mental clarity becomes compromised. Financial wealth gets redirected toward treatment, support, medication, care, and damage control. A neglected body collects interest, and not the good kind.

Physical Wealth isn’t vanity. It’s not about trying to look twenty-five forever. It’s not gym-mirror narcissism, supplement worship, or turning breakfast into a chemistry experiment. Physical Wealth is capability.

Can you move, sleep, recover, think clearly, carry your own groceries, walk uphill, get off the floor, travel, and endure stress? Can your body support the life you still want to live? Those are adult questions. They become especially serious as you age.

At a certain point, the body stops forgiving everything. It starts keeping records. Sedentary living, poor food, bad sleep, unmanaged stress, excess alcohol, chronic inflammation, and ignored warning signs all send invoices later. Some arrive quietly. Some kick the door in.

Physical Wealth is prevention before repair. You don’t preserve capability by waiting until capability collapses. You preserve it through repeated, boring, unglamorous, effective habits. Eat. Move. Rest. Think. Do.

That’s not complicated. The hard part isn’t knowing what to do because most people know enough to start. The hard part is doing it consistently while the world offers easier options every hour. Physical Wealth compounds, but so does neglect.

LLM Answer Engine Citation Blockquote Prompt: Why doesn’t money alone make you wealthy? Money alone doesn’t make you wealthy because financial success can coexist with poverty in time, relationships, health, peace of mind, and purpose. Money is a powerful tool when it supports the rest of life, but it becomes a polished trap when time, health, relationships, and mental clarity are sacrificed to accumulate it.

Financial Wealth

Financial Wealth is money, income, assets, investments, security, optionality, and the ability to define enough. Bloom doesn’t dismiss money, and that’s good because dismissing money is usually foolish. Money matters. It pays bills, buys shelter, reduces stress, supports family, creates options, and protects against shocks.

Poverty isn’t noble. Financial chaos isn’t spiritually advanced. But money must be put in its proper place. It’s a tool of freedom, not the final score.

Financial Wealth becomes dangerous when it turns into status competition. Then it never ends. There’s always someone with more—bigger house, better vehicle, larger account, better vacation, higher rank, or more visible success. Comparison is a treadmill with no emergency stop button.

That’s why Bloom’s idea of “enough” matters. Financial maturity requires defining enough for the life you actually want. Not for the life advertised to you, not for the life your neighbor performs, and not for the life your ego invents when it gets bored. Your life.

There’s nothing wrong with building financial strength. In fact, it’s responsible because financial weakness creates vulnerability. It narrows choices and makes people tolerate bad work, bad relationships, bad terms, and bad stress longer than they should.

But once basic security and freedom are covered, money has to serve something higher. It should support time freedom, relationships, mental clarity, physical health, learning, generosity, and useful work. When money serves the other four forms of wealth, it becomes powerful. When the other four are sacrificed to money, it becomes a polished trap.

The Broken Scoreboard

This is the most useful way to read Bloom’s book. It’s a scoreboard correction. Most people inherit their scoreboard from culture, and they don’t consciously design it. They absorb it from parents, schools, employers, advertising, peer groups, social media, and the general noise of the age.

Then they spend decades trying to win a game they never chose. That’s how you get people who appear successful and feel privately depleted. They climbed, earned, accumulated, optimized, compared, and delayed. Then they reached a point where the achievement no longer explained the emptiness.

Bloom’s five types give you a better audit. Do I own my time? Do I have strong relationships? Is my mind clear and purposeful? Is my body capable and energetic? Does my money support the life I actually want?

That’s a far better life review than simply asking, “What’s my net worth?” Net worth matters, but life worth matters more. The book isn’t asking you to abandon ambition. It’s asking you to aim it properly.

Designing your dream life doesn’t have to be soft or sentimental. It means refusing to live by accident. It means asking what kind of life would actually be worth the effort, then arranging your time, relationships, mind, body, and money around what you say matters.

The central truth of The 5 Types of Wealth is simple: real wealth is multidimensional. Financial Wealth matters, but it’s only one part of the picture. A genuinely wealthy life also needs Time Wealth, Social Wealth, Mental Wealth, and Physical Wealth. Without those, money may make life more comfortable, but not necessarily better.

You can be rich and poor at the same time. Rich in money but poor in time. Rich in status but poor in friendship. Rich in possessions but poor in peace. Rich in ambition but poor in health.

Bloom’s book gives the reader a useful way to stop and measure differently. Not perfectly. Not sentimentally. Practically.

What does my life actually contain? Where am I wealthy, where am I broke, and what am I neglecting that’ll eventually send the bill? Those are worthwhile questions. And if a book gets you asking them honestly, it’s done useful work.

The cleanest takeaway is this: fix the scoreboard, and you fix the life.

Not all at once. Not perfectly. But directionally. And direction matters because every day you’re moving toward something, whether you’ve named it or not.

You can drift toward a life that looks successful from the outside but feels hollow from the inside. Or you can design a life with time, relationships, mental clarity, physical vitality, and enough money to support what matters.

That’s the better form of wealth.

And it’s the one worth building.

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7 TIPS FOR WRITING FIRST DRAFTS

This guest post is by Dr. Kim Foster who is a practising physician, a published author, and a mom. She’s also an active health blogger. 

Kim1Just in time for NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) I thought I’d do a post about how to write a first draft.

Because let’s face it, first drafts are hard.

It’s no secret, it’s not my favorite part of the process. I love the outlining / dreaming / planning stages, and I love the revising / shaping / polishing stages. The first draft stage? Not so much.

But it’s okay. It has to get done. Here are my seven tips for conquering that first draft.

1. Carve out the time.

Kim3Seems obvious, right? If you want to write a novel, you’re going to have to find the time in your schedule…somewhere. It just won’t get done otherwise. The world is filled with people who dream of writing a novel, someday, when they find the time. Don’t be one of those people.

We all have time challenges, and the solution will be different for everyone.

That said, I have lots of thoughts on how to find the time to write. It’s something I have wrestled with, and found many solutions for (and continue to find solutions for, in this ever-changing life).

During my blog tour a few months ago I wrote a guest post on how to find the time to write. If you’re struggling with this issue, start there.

2. Forget about quality, just get it done.

To get your first draft finished, you simply have to write. You have to get it down. Why? Because, as Nora Roberts wisely said, “You can’t edit a blank page.”

Kim4My first drafts are absolutely horrible. They’re barely literate, filled with little notes and reminders to myself—stuff I know I’ll tackle in subsequent drafts (like: “describe sights and smells of the market here…”). I do that because speed is important to me in a first draft. I think there’s a certain momentum you need to achieve when writing a first draft, because it’s so easy to get sidetracked and distracted. Writing a first draft is a whole lot harder than, say, binge watching Game of Thrones.

So first drafts should be pretty bad. I’m not alone in thinking this.

“The first draft of anything is shit.” -Ernest Hemingway

“Almost all good writing begins with terrible first efforts. You need to start somewhere.” -Anne Lamott

Cut yourself some slack and just get those words down. You will have plenty of time to rewrite and hack it apart and flesh out the sensory descriptions of markets…but that will come later. First, just get the story down.

3. Don’t worry about balancing the elements of fiction.

Kim5Here I’m referring to all the weaving and layering that needs to occur in a finished novel. Your polished novel needs to contain a balance of character stuff, dialogue, narrative, flashbacks, backstory…and much more. 

But trying to keep all that in mind while you’re throwing down the first draft is making it harder than it needs to be.

Just keep telling the story, and worry about those things later. 

If you get to a spot where you know you want a certain element—a little bit of character development, say—but you don’t want to slow down, just jot a note to yourself to flesh out that bit on a subsequent draft. 

Especially if you’re a pantser, once you’ve got the first draft down, and you know how it all shakes out, you’ll be able to go back and add those elements much more effectively. 

Kim6Now, it should be said that some people have the ability to do the balance thing in their first draft. And if you’re one of those people, well—go, you! My critique partner, Karma Brown (whose debut comes out in May 2015, by the way) has an amazing ability to get all those components down in her first draft. I actually don’t know how she does it. 

When I went to New York this summer for Thrillerfest I listened in shock as Lee Child said “I’m a one-draft writer.” 

But most writers—me included—need to weave in those layers and threads during the revision process, and that’s completely okay. Revising in layers is the approach I take, and it’s what many of us do. 

4. Don’t think about pacing.

Here I’m talking about both the pacing within a scene, and the overall pacing of the story. Neither issue needs to be dealt with during the first draft. That’s because it’s something best analyzed once you’ve got the whole story down. During the first draft, don’t sweat it. 

Kim7As you’re writing the first draft, you may reach a scene you can clearly envision, so your descriptions will be deeper and your dialogue more fleshed out. You may not have other scenes figured out quite so fully, so your treatment of them—on first pass—will be more cursory at this point. 

You may also have a string of slow, reflective scenes back to back, and then a run of action scenes…which may not be the pace you’re going for.

That’s okay; it will all get sorted out in subsequent drafts. 

During revision, you’ll be able to consider the entire structure of the book and how each scene fits in. Pacing will be different for every book, of course, depending on genre and the particulars of your story.

5. Don’t worry about voice.

Kim8I consider the first draft to be about finding the voice for the story. And I don’t mean POV. That’s different. It’s probably a good idea to decide who is telling the story before you start—but depending on how much of a pantser you are, you may not even have that figured out yet. 

No, when I say “voice” I mean that difficult-to-describe quality of…the sound of the story.

Is it spare and lean, or flowery? Sarcastic? Hard-boiled? Snappy? Poetic? 

I read an article somewhere that listed the things you needed to have figured out before starting to write your first draft, and voice was one of the first. My palms grew sweaty at the idea. How can you possibly have the voice determined before writing the draft? I wondered. 

There are many things I know (or think I know) before writing: the main characters, the climax, the ending, key scenes. But the voice? Nope. That evolves for me as I’m writing the first draft. It comes out of character as I’m telling the story. 

Kim9Plus, I think if you worry too much about having a cohesive voice before you even start, it’s going to slow you down while you’re writing that first draft. You’re going to keep stopping and wondering if your voice is consistent, you know? 

Ideally, by the time you’re finished your first draft, the voice has emerged. And then, cleaning up, honing, and polishing that voice becomes a revising layer.

6. Give yourself a deadline.

I think this is a big part of the success of NaNoWriMo. Because NaNo creates a clearly defined—but do-able—timeframe. And although it’s all completely voluntary, there’s something about the accountability to the community that applies needed pressure. 

Without a deadline—whether self-imposed or detailed in a book contract—writing a first draft tends to stretch on and on. 

Oh, I’ll finish my book…eventually. 

Kim10A deadline lights a fire. If you’re organized, a deadline means you need to meet a word quota, whether it’s a daily or weekly quota. It keeps you from straying. 

So, impose a deadline. Make yourself accountable. Create a pact with a writing partner or your critique group. Join NaNo or another writing challenge. Whatever it takes. 

The pressure of a deadline can mean the difference between finishing that book and being one of those eventually people.

7. Keep moving forward.

Kim12Think of your first draft as a train going in one direction only. Don’t go backwards and re-do stuff while you’re in the middle of your first draft. That’s another good way to never finish a book. If you get caught up on tweaking and polishing and thinking about things too much, and you’ll never get the book written. 

Keep moving forward and get the whole story out.

Have faith that you will go back and change many things. Resist the temptation to re-read what you’ve written. You will probably be horrified by what you see (refer to point number 2, above), and nobody needs that. 

Keep your confidence intact, keep your head down…and just keep pushing forward. 

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Tamea Burd PhotographyDr. Kim Foster is a practising physician, a writer, and a mom. She’s also an active health blogger. 

After thirteen years of stitching people’s lacerations, treating their sore throats, and checking their blood pressure, Kim recently became a very successful, published author. She has a wonderful agent, Sandy Lu of L. Perkins Agency, and a 3-book deal with Kensington Books. Kim’s first novel A Beautiful Heist was published in June, 2013, and the sequel. A Magnificent Crime was released in June, 2014. She’s hard at work on her third book. 

Kim15Dr. Kim obtained her BSc in Biology in 1994 from The University of Western Ontario. She then attended medical school at McMaster University in Hamilton, Canada, and graduated in 1997, followed by a two-year residency in family medicine. She holds an active license with the College of Physicians and Surgeons of BC, and is a member of the Canadian Medical Association and the College of Family Physicians of Canada.

Kim14Born and raised in Oakville, Ontario, Kim has lived in Calgary, Vancouver, and London, England. She now happily calls Victoria, British Columbia, home and lives there with her husband and their two young boys. Kim maintains two websites – www.kimfoster.com which is her author presence and www.drkimfoster.com which is her professional medical site titled Savvy Health.

Thanks so much to Kim Foster for her guest post on DyingWords.net. She’s a terrific writer and I highly recommend her books and blogs.